Chicken Soup for the Soul Twitter Party!

Ever attended a Twitter Party? I hadn’t, until today, and it was fun!

The event was to celebrate Chicken Soup for the Soul’s release of their new book Life Lessons from the Cat. I was invited to participate because I’m a contributing story author.

Seeing so many of the contributing authors and their feline heroes and heroines was exciting—putting whiskers and fur to the stories.

 

My story was about our grey and black Tabby, Sergeant Tibbs, who brought home an undesirable playmate on a spring outing several years ago. My precocious buddy has since gone on to catnip heaven, and we miss him terribly. As my younger son pointed out when he came home from college for a college break one year, the fact that Tibbs was gone was driven home by the fact that Tibbs didn’t appear to sit on Cory’s back or chest when he lay on the family room floor to do sit ups, push ups, or take a nap. His passing left a big void in our lives.

 

If you’d like to follow me on Twitter, my “handle” is @AndreaOwan.

 

How to get a signed copy of Life Lessons from the Cat!

 And if you’d like a signed copy of Life Lessons from the Cat (just released today, May 14), I have 5 copies available! A signed copy would cost $13.00. Retail price is $14.95. Amazon is selling it for $9.97. Of course, if you order it from Amazon, it won’t be signed by me.

Life Lessons from the Cat royalties go to American-Humane.

Just email me at andreaarthurowan@gmail.com, and I’ll give you directions for paying for the book via PayPal. Please provide me with your shipping address too! Once your payment is processed, I’ll sign a copy and ship it to you!

This book is loaded with heartwarming stories of healing, hysteria and cat hijinks! A great gift for yourself, or any cat lover in your family or friends circle.

 

See you back here Friday!

Blessings,

Andrea

PS The photo is of Tibbs in his favorite napping location—a comfy, COOL porcelain bathroom sink!

How Gratitude Affects Physical and Mental Health

If you decided to keep a gratitude journal once a week for 10 weeks, how do you suppose that might affect your gratitude levels? What about writing a gratitude or thank you letter to someone?

Researchers are finding that gratitude and gratitude activities are having significant effects on physical fitness, self-esteem, heart patients, the chronically ill, depressed and suicidal patients, and with relationships and in the workplace.

 

Gratitude is a prescription for a healthy heart—

A 1995 study found that participating patients that experienced appreciation had improvements in heart rate variability, a function associated with good heart health.

More grateful people also report better physical health. They tend to:

  • engage in healthy activities
  • seek help for their health issues
  • sleep better and longer

 

Heart and heart attack patients who have higher levels of gratitude do better in sleep, have less fatigue, enjoy lower levels of cell inflammation, and greater improvements in emotional well-being.

Higher optimism and gratitude have also been associated with higher adherence to following medical recommendations.

Chronic pain patients and those with chronic illnesses like arthritis or inflammatory bowel syndrome tend to experience less depression and anxiety and enjoy better sleep when they have higher levels of gratitude.

And gratitude may actually prevent chronic illness from occurring.

 

Gratitude interventions—

In 2003, Emmons and McCullough found that the participants they had in the study record 5 things they were grateful for (“counting blessings” or “gratitude journaling”) every week for 10 weeks reported a lot more time exercising ad noted fewer physical complains than the participants assigned to write down 5 hassles or 5 daily events.

 

Gratitude may improve sleep!

Research indicates keeping a gratitude journal improves your sleep.

Maybe doing a gratitude check before bed primes your brain and body chemicals for a peaceful, restful night.

Gratitude journals may also improve cardiac health.

Grateful people tend to enjoy life more and have greater feelings of well-being.

 

Gratitude and materialism—

A few studies suggest that more grateful people are less materialistic, which may be because they’re more satisfied with their lives.

But one study showed that people who were both materialistic and high in gratitude did not have lower life satisfaction. They were just happy, grateful materialists!

 

Gratitude and avoiding burnout—

Studies indicate that gratitude may help employees and athletes avoid burnout; but burnout may dampen feelings of gratitude.

 

More reasons to start counting your blessings—

We need to really take this blessing counting seriously, as more studies have found that being grateful and demonstrating gratitude in some way had the following effects:

  • improved people’s life satisfaction
  • improved
  • alleviated depression symptoms in the severely depressed
  • increased optimism
  • increased happiness
  • decreased body dissatisfaction in women!
  • an increase of trust and positive emotions during a financial transaction

 

Pull out those thank you cards and start writing!

The research showing the multitude of benefits from thank you card writing is impressive. People who do it show higher levels of gratitude. And actually reading the letter to the recipient may really crank up the happiness scoreboard AND decrease depression.

 

In numerous studies, writing thank you notes and letters had a significant effect on the writer’s feelings of gratitude and resulting life satisfaction and happiness.

 

Be grateful to broaden your mind—

It also turns out that gratitude tends to increase your creativity, especially when thinking about an activity that will benefit others.

And gratitude can enhance social bonds and friendships.

And the list goes on and on!

Gratefulness can cause people to:

  • play more
  • be creative
  • push their limits
  • increase their psychological and social resources
  • cancel out negative thoughts
  • increase and improve coping mechanisms
  • re-cast negative events in a positive light
  • put effort into positive behaviors, which in turn leads to self-improvement behavior
  • improve their relatedness (being and feeling connected)
  • improve their feelings of autonomy (and being empowered and in control)
  • improve their feelings of competence
  • decrease their stress levels or perception of stress
  • decrease their depression
  • decrease their anxiety
  • experience fewer suicidal thoughts and attempts at suicide
  • have a decreased fear of death
  • be able to respond better to traumatic life events
  • show more humility
  • have more wisdom
  • enjoy pro-social behavior
  • increase their sense of purpose in life
  • increase their sense of satisfaction in school
  • improve their relationships
  • foster more and better relationships
  • improve workplace atmosphere and relationships

 

With all of these amazing benefits associated with attitudes of gratitude and gratefulness, and demonstrating gratitude through behavior and thank you card writing, why would you put off putting them into practice? Of try to make it a habit, or a fundamental, frequent practice in your life?

It just appears that gratitude makes you an all-around better, happier and probably more productive and engaging person. Someone other people gravitate toward and want to be with and like.

 

So as we say goodbye to the official gratitude month of November, and look forward to one of the days on the calendar we should be most grateful for, let’s try to put some of these gratitude-building activities into practice.

Preparing our grateful hearts for the One who loves us most!

 

Until next week, when we’ll start looking at just how much He does love us and the power of love,

Keep making entries into that gratitude journal, or maybe ask for a special one for Christmas!

For more in-depth study on gratitude research, see Greater Good Science Center’s gratitude white paper.

Blessings,

Andrea

May you prosper in all things and be in health, just as your soul prospers (3 John 2).

Thank You Light by Morvanic Lee on unsplash

Celebrating Life’s Milestones—Body and Spirit

This weekend is another big one for the Owan clan. We’ll be celebrating with our older son as he is bestowed “with all the rights and privileges” of a Doctor of Philosophy in Mechanical Engineering, specifically robotics and artificial intelligence.

 

Several weeks ago we celebrated as our younger son was graduated with all the rights and privileges of a Bachelor of Science in Electrical and Computer Engineering, with a minor in International Communications. He outshined all of us with an impressive magna cum laude status and a host of other awards, including Engineering Ambassador for the University of Arizona. He’s on his way to law school, where he plans to focus on IP—intellectual property—law.

 

Boy, are we proud of them!

 

But the accolades and achievements didn’t come easy, even though our older son is unusually bright and picks up concepts faster than normal. Way faster than normal, actually. And our younger son has the enviable capacity to be deeply introspective, which helps him identify his weaknesses and strengths and work in a way to take advantage of his strengths and neutralize those weaknesses.

Aside from their natural God-bestowed gifts, their awards came through hard work, lack of sleep, heightened anxiety, and poor eating habits. Sacrifices and deliberate avoidance of certain activities. Making conscious decisions to choose the best over the good. Sometimes—even though you strive for a balanced life—life needs to be lived unbalanced, as long as it doesn’t become a habit and the norm.

And I think they took to heart something I repeated to them from the time when they were very young:

 

“Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with your might; for there is no work or device or knowledge or wisdom in the grave where you are going” (Ecclesiastes 9:10 NKJV).

 

I love how The Message renders this:

 

“Seize life! Eat bread with gusto,
Drink wine with a robust heart.
Oh yes—God takes pleasure in your pleasure!
Dress festively every morning.
Don’t skimp on colors and scarves.
Relish life with the spouse you love
Each and every day of your precarious life.
Each day is God’s gift. It’s all you get in exchange
For the hard work of staying alive.
Make the most of each one!
Whatever turns up, grab it and do it. And heartily!
This is your last and only chance at it,
For there’s neither work to do nor thoughts to think
In the company of the dead, where you’re most certainly headed.”

 

We taught them that if they had just B brain capacities, then they needed to be the best darn B brains they could be. No excuses for what they didn’t have. They needed to use the gifts God gave them to His glory. So they wouldn’t look back on their lives with regret about talents and gifts they’d wasted or neglected to mature and develop.

 

They were also reminded often of the verse from Colossians 3:23-24:

 

“And whatever you do, do it heartily, as to the Lord and not to men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the reward of the inheritance; for you serve the Lord Christ.”

 

And they were taught to dream big.

B-HAGS we call them in the Owan house. Big Hairy Audacious Goals.

Sometimes I think our older one goes a bit overboard with this, but he really is his father’s son, so I’m not surprised.

So this weekend we’re celebrating what he’s accomplished, where he’s come from and where he’s going. Memories of the last 28 years are already causing me to break out in melancholy.

It’s going to be a weekend to celebrate both the spirit and the body. And rejoice that our lives are a combination of both.

 

We all have stories to tell. Our lives are stories.

 

I’m having a grand time watching my sons’ stories unfold! Here’s the younger one on his big day!

 

 

Until next Friday,

Dream big, explore your potential, and celebrate body and spirit!

Andrea

May you prosper in all things and be in health, just as your soul prospers (3 John 2).

Photos by Andrea A Owan

The Power of a Story

On Easter Sunday, a site called Chat About Jesus (https://www.chataboutjesus.com) took out a full-page ad in major newspapers. The title of the ad was—

 

“LET THE AUTHOR OF LIFE

WRITE YOUR STORY”

 

Then they placed three little crosses (with the middle one being the largest) over the passage found in Jeremiah 29:11:

 

“For I know the plans I have for you, “ declares the Lord,” plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

 

—above an old manual typewriter. The passage looked as though it was being typed on paper inserted in the typewriter. It was a beautiful ad. Simple. Attention grabbing. Compelling.

And true.

 

What about your story?

So how about you? Do you like to write or tell stories? Are you writing a story now?

Did you ever consider that God is writing a story through you? What story have you kept to yourself that others need to hear?

 

Guideposts magazines

Through this weekend, I’m going to be working with other Guideposts magazine contributing writers and Guideposts editors on writing good stories. Stories God is writing through people. A lot of them. Just like you.

It’s always amazing (and humbling) to me to read how God works in such astounding ways. Unusual circumstances. “Chance” encounters. Otherworldly guidance and protection.

Some of the stories we’re going to peruse are about season of life changes, love stories, how destructive poor body image can be and how long it can last, mule trains, and miraculous intervention and protection. Daily events that don’t at first glance appear to be extraordinary, until we looked more closely at them and see just how miraculous they are.

Sometimes we put God in a human box and forget He’s unlimited in what He can do, and does do in our lives. Even in the lives of those who don’t pay too much attention to Him.

And when we look carefully over all of our years, we all find something miraculous to tell.

And that’s what Guideposts does. We tell stories to uplift and encourage (because we all need encouragement in our daily living), explore the mysterious ways of the universe and God, observe how God uses all of his creation—including four-legged ones—to protect, guide and give us companionship. And they explore the Heavenly realm of angels and angelic encounters, which are more prevalent than we notice or think.

 

Start telling your story. You never know who might be awed, encouraged or brought to faith by it. And if you think it’s something Guideposts editors might like to share with millions of readers, contact their editorial board in New York.

We all need stories. They move us emotionally and spiritually and sometimes move us to action. They’re what make life rich. They make great family history.

 

NEXT WEEK—Free-for-All Fridays will be on hiatus until May 18. So until then, be thinking about the story you can tell.

Until then, write and tell your story. And don’t forget to tell everyone who the

Author is!

Make it a great weekend of story writing!

Blessings,

Andrea

“May you prosper in all things and be in health, just as your soul prospers” (3 John 2).

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