Tag: Body

Grief: The Ultimate Body and Spirit Experience

I can think of no other life event that makes you so acutely aware of being both body and spirit than the death of a loved one. Especially the death of your child.

Grief.

There’s a reason people call it gut wrenching and refer to the sufferers as brokenhearted. Your gut feels wrenched—grabbed, twisted and strangled. Your heart feels as though it has fractured into a million pieces that will never be patched back together in the right places again. And they really won’t.

The air feels as though it’s been vacuumed out of your lungs and you can’t breathe. Sometimes you feel as though you’ll suffocate. But that’s okay because you know death would be a welcome alternative to the hell you’re experiencing.

There’s a reason Scripture refers to the brokenhearted as having crushed spirits.

 

Your heart throbs with an indescribable pain that seems impossible, and impossible to bear. Somewhere deep in the core of your physical body lies your spirit that cries out in pain. If you could hear it on the outside, it would sound like a blood-curdling, glass-shattering wail. On the inside, the silent scream reverberates through your body, causing your heart to gush blood and your organs to convulse.

Even your brain gets involved, dumping chemicals into the nervous system that send your spirit into a state of terror and your body into rebellion. Your nerves sound an alarm of impending destruction. You’re unraveling from the inside out, until there’s nothing left to unravel.

Then you lie wasted, unresponsive to sensations and disinterested in life.

Nothing can make you feel so old and physically and emotionally wasted as the death of a loved one. Look at a grieving person and you can recognize the dull look in their eyes. The light of life—from within—has vanished.

Grief.

There is nothing like it to make you aware of how much body you are and how intertwined it is with your spirit or soul. They are inseparable while your body pumps blood and your brainwaves function.

 

When you encounter a grieving person, remember that their body is hurting just as much as their spirit, and it, too, needs attention and care.

 

Blessings,

Andrea

May you prosper in all things and be in health, just as your soul prospers (3 John 2).

 

(Free-for-All Fridays will be on hiatus until October 12. I’m on a pilgrimage to discover and experience the body and soul waltz. See you next month!)

Photo by Christian Newman on Unsplash

On the Mountaintop—A Beautiful Marriage of Body and Spirit

I’m spending this weekend in the White Mountains of Arizona with my beloved, to celebrate 35 years of life together, and to refresh and invigorate my body, mind and spirit.

Being outside in the cool air and towering pine trees, (the largest grove of Ponderosa pine trees in the world), and inhaling that rich pine scent is like a hypodermic needle shot of anti-depressant and happiness booster for me.

And it’s truly a emotional, physical and spiritual experience. And science can back that up.

 

Spirit does affect the body, and vice versa—

When you experience something pleasant or enjoyable, brain chemicals are released and those chemicals cause a chain reaction throughout the body. Senses are heightened, happy hormones are released along with soothing brain chemicals. Happiness permeates your body systems. And all of that can heighten your joy.

When people say something is good for the spirit, like my mountain experience, they aren’t kidding. While scientists don’t completely understand why and how it happens, they can see the positive effects from it. The Greater Good Science Center located in Berkeley, California dedicates itself to uncovering why and how experiences enrich our lives and make us happier.

Joy-infusing experiences make us feel physically better, they improve health and can heal. They soothe us, refresh us, and give life meaning.

And we often feel a greater connection to God. The spirit that gives life meaning, that makes us so much more than just a living organism focused on maintenance, staying alive, and propagating ourselves, is stimulated by the experience, and the body reacts.

If that’s the case, how can we separate the two, when they’re so closely intertwined and interconnected? If a ravaged, pained body can affect the spirit so severely; and a ravaged, pained spirit can affect the body in a similar manner? If a healthy body and improve the spirit’s outlook; and an uplifted spirit can do the same for the physical component.

 

God has indeed made us very complex individuals. And is that any surprise?

 

The spirit of life we hold within us was breathed into us by Him. It is so much a part of Him that when it leaves our bodies at death it returns to Him. (Absent from the body but present with the Lord.) We are made in His image. Both the body and spirit give us life, in different and in complementary ways. And that’s one of life’s mysteries that makes human life so rich. One we should embrace.

 

The body and spirit interactions in which we can rejoice.

 

Are we more spirit than body?

When you’re standing on a mountaintop, inhaling the thinner, fresher air, feeling the cool breeze caress your face, smelling the exquisite scents peculiar only to juniper and pine-clad landscape, tell me which you feel more of at that moment. Body or spirit?

 

Or is it a beautiful, complex marriage of both?

 

 What do you think?

 

NEXT WEEK: More reasons why I think the body is just as important as the spirit.

Until then, enjoy your surroundings and the marvelous effects they have on both your body and spirit!

 

Blessings,

 Andrea

May you prosper in all things and be in health, just as your soul prospers (3 John 2).

 Photo by Andrea A Owan

Jesus in the Garden: Body, Mind and Spirit

The moonlight filtering through the garden’s ancient, gnarled olive trees casts dancing shadows on the ground. A young man, muscled and toned from years of outdoor living, frequent walking and laboring as a carpenter kneels alone on the cool soil, a few yards from three friends who have fallen asleep.

Just minutes before, the young man’s festive mood had changed from one of peace and strength to sorrow and deep distress. He expresses as much to his friends and asks them to sit and watch with him while he goes to pray. But they can’t. They’re tired after the long day, and their full stomachs following the special celebration meal have made them sleepy.

The young man’s distress is verbalized in his prayer. “Please, Lord, take this cup from me.” Clearly he would rather not do what he’s being asked to do. He prays, and then, agitated, rises to check on his friends, or be encouraged by their presence.

But they are sleeping, and the young man chastises one of them for not being able to stay awake with him, to support him and keep watch. Danger is lurking. The young man knows it’s only a matter of time before it arrives, and he doesn’t want his dearest friends to be blindsided by it. They don’t have a clue what’s about to happen. “The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak,” he tells them.

He again admonishes them to watch and pray, and then returns to his spot to continue his beseeching conversation with God. Then he checks on his friends again, who have once again fallen asleep. Again he admonishes them and warns them to stay awake before he returns one more time to his prayer.

This time his distress becomes severe, and he sweats so profusely that his pores ooze drops of blood. It looks as though the life is draining out of him, weakening him physically. But he makes his decision, accepts his fate, and rises to meet his friends for the final time before being grabbed and arrested in front of them and dragged away for trial.

 

A closer look—

Most of you are probably familiar with this story—Jesus in the Garden of Gethsemane with his disciples after their Passover meal. Jesus selecting three of his closest disciples to follow him farther into the garden to sit, watch, and pray while He beseeches His Father to remove the punishment and suffering of the cross that he’ll soon have to endure.

In this story, Jesus displays both his physical and spiritual sides. Acutely. But can you tell what he is more of—physical or spiritual?

 

Body, Mind, Spirit? Or all three—

He craves the physical closeness and emotional support of his friends. He seems to crave assurance that they have his back. When he discovers—two times—that they don’t, he is angry and calls them out for their weakness. Their physical weakness, not their spiritual deficiency. He recognizes them for what they are—weak men who have difficulty overcoming their body’s physical needs and desires. And he warns them about the dangers of letting the physical overrule and control the spiritual.

By the third time, he confronts them again, but essentially tells them it doesn’t matter anymore. The peace of the night (for them) is over. Indeed, life as they have been living it will abruptly cease within hours.

 

Being God incarnate, Jesus was spirit, The Word itself. But He was also physical, that spirit encased in flesh. On this night, he demonstrates both the body and the spirit to the extremes.

 

What about us?

Is it realistic to expect us to do any less? Especially since we are not God in the flesh—we are not God at all—and we are more likely to battle with our body’s frailties, shortcomings and demands than Jesus.

On that night He demonstrated both body and spirit. Yes, the Spirit won the battle over the body for Him, but that does not detract from the fact that His body suffered immeasurably, and would suffer even more when it is beaten, pierced and hung soon after His arrest.

 

Our Lord suffered physically, emotionally and spiritually, a triad of pain.

Body, mind and spirit.

 

If our Lord suffered so, how can we expect to be spared from sometimes being more body than spirit, not an equal balance of both, or times when we manage to be more spirit than body?

 

And you?

What has your experience been?

 

Until next week,

Rejoice in the complexity of being both body and spirit!

Andrea

May you prosper in all things and be in health, just as your soul prospers (3 John 2).

 Photo by Antoine Perier

Are You Mostly Body or Mostly Spirit? Part 2

Have you ever been in physical pain? I mean the kind of pain you experience with a serious car accident, broken bone, or surgery?

The pain can be so severe that it strikes at your deepest gut level. Your nerves scream. You’re in agony, and you can’t get any relief. Heavy pain meds might take the edge off, but only for a while. Ice acts like a numbing anesthetic it, but eventually that wears off too. Your body screams “Nooooooo! Make it go away!” Or the pain can be so severe you actually entertain the thought of death being an inviting option.

Before I went on hiatus for my oral surgery, we were discussing whether or not we—as humans—were more body or more spirit. I’d like to return to that discussion for the next several weeks.

What do you think?

When you’re in physical pain, would you say you’re thinking of yourself as more body, or more spirit? I know I’ve often wished that I were more spirit than body at that point, but there’s just no escaping the body my spirit’s housed in. Often even my spirit cries out too, since it doesn’t seem to like it when the body’s suffering either. The physical disability seems to wrap its tentacles around every part of you. Body and spirit intertwine. And you engage in mental combat to make the spirit rise and conquer.

At those times, we usually allow the body to move into center stage, and give it all the attention it demands, deserves, if you want to heal properly and press on in life. Often the spirit takes a backseat, or is temporarily forgotten. Even though you’re really trying to focus on the spirit—sometimes for distraction—the body can be pretty demanding.

 

Example—

Take a good look at the picture at the top of the post. The collarbone that’s broken, splintered into multiple pieces and displaced. It’s a doozy. And having suffered a simple greenstick fracture (crack) in my collarbone at the age of 4, I can tell you this person is suffering. My arm felt as though it was falling off. I can only barely imagine what this person’s arm felt like.

Realignment would require surgery and internal fixation. It may even be a compound fracture, where it’s broken through the skin. Bleeding. With muscle, fat, and nerve tissue exposed.

There is no question in my mind that the sufferer of this injury is overwhelmed with the limitations and demands of his or her body. And it’s getting their attention.

 

Can you blame them?

 

NEXT WEEK: I’ll give you what I think are good examples of spirit and body taking on equal importance. And it’s demonstrated with and in our Lord Jesus.

Have a great weekend nurturing both body and spirit!

Blessings,

 Andrea

May you prosper in all things and be in health, just as your soul prospers (3 John 2).

 

Photo by Harlie Raethel