Mother’s Day 2019: Kids, Flowers and Quail

It was a busy Mother’s Day around the Owan homestead.

My younger son drove down from Phoenix to celebrate the day with me and spend the night; the three of us enjoyed worship together (ALWAYS a thrill to have my children join me again at a worship service—for some reason, it’s when I feel most like a mother), and listened to popular Christian speaker Cynthia Heald speak on discipleship.

Then we enjoyed a lengthy brunch at one of our favorite local restaurants (First Watch—their Million Dollar Bacon is to die for!) before returning home, grabbing my Shetland sheepdog, Dolly, and heading down to the rehabilitation facility where my mom’s currently recovering from her broken collarbone. Later that evening I enjoyed a lengthy phone conversation with my older son who lives 1,538.1 miles away.

 

And then there was the new motherhood spectacle erupting (literally) in a pot on our front porch.

 

Ten new babies—

About twenty days ago, a female Gambel’s Quail inspected the neighborhood and decided the large pot housing a Norfolk Island Pine tree tucked in the corner next to our front door would make a splendid protected location to set up a maternity room.

As a quail lover, I was thrilled and honored at her decision!

For ten days after her selection, we watched spellbound as she laid one, two, three, four…ten dappled eggs—one egg each day over the course of those ten days. Then she stopped laying and started warming. (We contributed to the effort by refraining from watering our tree!)

While Momma quail provided most of the incubating, her male partner put in his share of time (while mom took a well-deserved break) and was the major sitter and warmer when time came for the residents of those adorable eggs to emerge.

 

Mother’s Day morning the brood started making their grand appearance.

 

Evidently the chipping and emerging process starts a couple of days prior to the actual eruption, but we weren’t able to detect any of that until Sunday. But by Sunday afternoon, cracked shells, withering shell linings and thimble-sized quail lay discarded, or scurrying around the dirt inside the pot. Dad continued to keep the new hatchlings warm while their siblings continued working their way out and into the world. One egg that had rolled to the other side of the pot in the frantic hatching process was rescued and re-nested by Dad. When Dad “flew the coop” (when we attempted to take a peek from afar), the quail babies wedged themselves under the pot lip for warmth and protection.

When our black Labrador ran his big, snoopy nose in the pot to inspect the nursery, several babies took flight, plopped onto the porch and had to be corralled by Dad or scooped up by my husband and re-deposited into the pot.

It was, indeed, a grand Mother’s Day all around: Kids, worship, fellowship around food, white roses, pink and yellow tulips, and the cycle of life playing itself out in magnificent form on our front porch—we had a delightful, ring-side view to God’s marvelous design for replenishing and renewing. Why we work so hard to find other things to obtain and amuse ourselves with is beyond me.

 

What provides more true and pure joy than fellowship with the Lord and the basics of life?

 

The aftermath—

The eggs are broken and discarded, the quail have vacated, and I’m left a little melancholy at their absence.

I felt so blessed to be a daily witness to this spectacle of nature, of God’s creating and re-creating plan. Instead of just dumping the evidence and resuming the watering of my pine tree, I’m going to pluck all of the shells from the pot and display them in a glass jar, a reminder of that blessing, and of all the blessings yet to come in my life.

A reminder of the dedication of a feathered mother to warm and protect her brood until it was their time to arrive, and to make sure they arrived safely. (Honestly, may I say that it was a stark contrast to the haphazard and flippant way many human mothers incubate and prepare for their offsprings’ emergence.)

Now she and her mate are scurrying around the neighborhood somewhere with ten offspring. They’re still protecting and watching over them until they reach adulthood, (quails are phenomenal at protecting their covey), when the offsprings will seek mates and continue the cycle of life—of being fruitful and multiplying.

 

I hope all of you who are mothers rejoiced on your day; that all of you with loving, nurturing mothers were grateful for your blessing; that all of you awaiting the birth of a child feel blessed by the process and are excitedly anticipating your baby’s birth; and that those of you who have lost precious babies during pregnancy or delivery remember your babies as priceless members of your family.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Until next week,

Blessings,

Andrea

Chicken Soup for the Soul Twitter Party!

Ever attended a Twitter Party? I hadn’t, until today, and it was fun!

The event was to celebrate Chicken Soup for the Soul’s release of their new book Life Lessons from the Cat. I was invited to participate because I’m a contributing story author.

Seeing so many of the contributing authors and their feline heroes and heroines was exciting—putting whiskers and fur to the stories.

 

My story was about our grey and black Tabby, Sergeant Tibbs, who brought home an undesirable playmate on a spring outing several years ago. My precocious buddy has since gone on to catnip heaven, and we miss him terribly. As my younger son pointed out when he came home from college for a college break one year, the fact that Tibbs was gone was driven home by the fact that Tibbs didn’t appear to sit on Cory’s back or chest when he lay on the family room floor to do sit ups, push ups, or take a nap. His passing left a big void in our lives.

 

If you’d like to follow me on Twitter, my “handle” is @AndreaOwan.

 

How to get a signed copy of Life Lessons from the Cat!

 And if you’d like a signed copy of Life Lessons from the Cat (just released today, May 14), I have 5 copies available! A signed copy would cost $13.00. Retail price is $14.95. Amazon is selling it for $9.97. Of course, if you order it from Amazon, it won’t be signed by me.

Life Lessons from the Cat royalties go to American-Humane.

Just email me at andreaarthurowan@gmail.com, and I’ll give you directions for paying for the book via PayPal. Please provide me with your shipping address too! Once your payment is processed, I’ll sign a copy and ship it to you!

This book is loaded with heartwarming stories of healing, hysteria and cat hijinks! A great gift for yourself, or any cat lover in your family or friends circle.

 

See you back here Friday!

Blessings,

Andrea

PS The photo is of Tibbs in his favorite napping location—a comfy, COOL porcelain bathroom sink!

Do Soul Mates Exist?

Well, it’s that time of year again, the month we in the U.S. celebrate love and romance. Everywhere you look and every store you enter has red and white heart displays, monstrous boxes of special chocolates, or reminders—and enticements—to buy that special someone a gift for the BIG day—February 14.

Saint Valentine’s Day.

One day a year where we’re encouraged to celebrate and honor our sweethearts. Our soul mates.

 

But what if you don’t have a special “sweetheart?” That special “someone” you can toast and dine with by candlelight?

Then why not choose to celebrate a different type of soul mate? A special someone who has connected with your soul, like your BFF. Maybe a best girl or guy friend you can thank for being so special to you.

 

Who’s your soul mate?

Guideposts recently explored the question of soul mates in their Big Question section of their Mysterious Ways publication. The question?

Do soul mates exist?

Here are some of the answers they found:

 

Dr. Joe Beam, author of The Art of Falling in Love offers some interesting–and good—advice for those still looking and pining for that special someone to spend the rest of their lives with.

“There is no indication that God made just one person for you. The whole concept that there is one person who is absolutely perfect sets up impossible expectations. It’s up to us to pray, to expect God to be involved in this process, but also to use our own judgment and wisdom and to look for a person that we can commit to for life.”

 

Stephen Cope, author of Soul Friends believes soul mates absolutely do exist.

“Though it’s not helpful to think about them as necessarily romantic relationships, or as happening only once in a lifetime. Soul mates are that handful of people with whom we connect profoundly, deeply, magically, even mystically—over the course of a lifetime.”

 

Dr. Paulette Sherman, psychologist and author of Facebook Dating: From First Date to Soul Mate says,

“Soul mates exist, whether they are predestined or are forged in this life. They bring out one another’s potential and also mirror one another’s unhealed places so that they can grow. Often together soul mates achieve their higher purpose and better the world.”

 

I can relate to her statement. Both my husband and I came to our relationship heavily laden with hurtful baggage—dysfunctional family units that caused a lot of identified and unidentified issues, which have slowly (and sometimes painfully) been exposed and rectified over the years.

While we have, unfortunately, hurt one another during the course of our 38-year relationship, we have also grown and healed together. We have held and walked one another through some painful realizations and events. He is my greatest and most loving support; and I am his. We truly have brought out one another’s potential and mirrored one another’s unhealed places so that we can grow!

 

Pastor and author Justin Buzzard (Date Your Wife) believes:

“Your ultimate soul mate is God, not another human being. Only God can meet you at that deep soul level. Once you discover that, you open yourself up to having a soul mate on earth. You become more able to connect on an incredibly close level with another person.”

 

Rabbi Deborah K. Bravo talks about the Judaic soul mate concept.

“In Judaism, there is a concept that people have a b’shert, one person with whom they are meant to spend their life. Many believe that your b’shert is destined, but it can also be the right person you meet at the right place and time in your life.”

 

Finally, Rick Hamlin, Guideposts Senior Contributing Editor and author of Pray for Me, absolutely believes soul mates exist.

“Yes! My wife and I were friends a long while before we discovered we were soul mates—that couldn’t have happened without the divine. There’s no reason why good friends can’t be soul mates too. Think of David and Jonathan. ‘…the soul of Jonathan was knit with the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul’ (1 Samuel 18:1). The word soul is used here for a reason.”

 

I can so relate to Rick’s assessment.

Chris and I were friends before it hit me that we were soul mates. And it was a hard hit. A shot from heaven struck into my heart. In a split second, my attitude toward him changed from friend to “Wow! I really LIKE this guy!” And by like I mean that my heart pounded and my hands jittered at his nearness. In one fell swoop. We’d known one another for a year before that smack-between-the-eyes event. Thirty-five married years later, I can attest to that not being a mistake.

 

But I can also list a number of close friends I would tally up in the soul mate column. We are friends who have knit-together hearts. There is an otherworldly closeness we enjoy, an uncanny intimacy we share.

While girls tend to drift this way, it’s also critical for men to have guy friends like this. Men they can talk to man-to-man. Men who understand things about men that a woman never can.

Those are soul mates.

And we can celebrate those relationships this month too!

 

Your soul mate stories—

Do you have any soul mate stories to tell? I’d love to hear them!


Until March 1, when I’ll be undergoing arthroscopy and meniscus repair on my right knee, enjoy celebrating soul mates and love!

 

Blessings,

Andrea

“Certainly there was an Eden….We all long for it, and we are constantly glimpsing it.” —J.R.R. Tolkien

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Are Your Standards Higher than God’s?

Most of the stories the group members relayed were full of anguish and turmoil. Pain heaped upon pain. And as I listened to them tell their stories, a couple of thoughts crossed my mind.

It was clear that some had told their stories before. Many times. And a few of them seemed to enjoy telling their stories. I wasn’t sure if they went on and on because they were nervous, or they wanted or needed to be heard, or they had gotten so accustomed to the attention they received when telling the story that they craved it, had become addicted to it.

Certainly, being Christians, they expressed joy in the Lord, and gratefulness for His salvation. But the peace He promises seemed to be missing.

And then there was the shame. The deep, profound feeling of shame they projected over their weaknesses, failures and hurts they’d caused others. Some had confessed their sins and turned from their evil ways decades ago, and yet they still wept over their behavior.

They seemed to focus more on their shame and sins than they did on the dismantling and destruction of their chains. Their cleansing.

 

They still struggled with feelings of unworthiness.

While they possessed the head knowledge of their new lives in Christ, they clung to the pain and sins of their old lives. They identified them.

They didn’t focus on being a new creature.

They forgot that when God forgives sins, He will remember them no more. As far as the east is from the west is the distance God has removed our transgressions from us.

They didn’t seem to want to let go.

They weren’t going through the process of renewing their minds.

And they were beating themselves up about it.

 

In short, it comes down to what Dr. David Jeremiah told a young lady who just couldn’t get from the God-forgiving-her-stage, to forgiving herself,

 

“So your standards are higher and better than God’s?”

 

Wow! That’s looking at through a different lens, isn’t it? And He’s right. When you stop and think about it, it’s ludicrous what we project onto our loving, tender, long-suffering and forgiving God.

Does all of that sound too familiar?

 

Can you picture this scenario?

Jesus tells you: “Your sin is forgiven, but I’m going to be banging you in the head over it for the rest of your life. Just so you don’t forget how awful you are and awful your sin was, and how much you owe me for My sacrifice and salvation.”

 

Can you imagine Him doing that to you?

Well, he doesn’t and He wouldn’t.

 

So why do we act as thought He does?

It’s becoming more painfully clear to me that so much of our mental, emotional, spiritual and sometimes physical anguish is self-inflicted. And it shouldn’t be that way. In fact, I think it grieves our Saviors heart to watch how we punish ourselves, and others who have also asked for and received forgiveness for their confessed sins.

 

How about you?

  • Are you stuck in the self-infliction pattern?
  • Have you set higher standards than God has for you?
  • Are you continuing to beat yourself up over some failure you confessed and know you’ve received forgiveness for?
  • Is your behavior threatening your mental, emotional, spiritual and physical health?
  • If so, what will you do to change your attitude and behavior this year?
  • Do you need to confess to Him that you’ve been punishing yourself and seek forgiveness for self-harm?
  • Do you know anyone who needs encouragement and maybe some enlightenment and correction in this area?

 

My prayer is that we can all take the Savior at His word, rest in His peace and joy, walk through life with a light step, and reject the self-incrimination that can bind our hearts, minds, emotions and actions.

Let’s make sure we allow God to set the standards for our lives!

Blessings,

Andrea

“Certainly there was an Eden….We all long for it, and we are constantly glimpsing it.” —J.R.R. Tolkien

 

BLOG SCHEDULE NOTE: As 2019 has dawned, it became clear that, in order to complete my memoir manuscript this year and prepare it for publication, and complete all of the writing set before me, that I would have to reduce my blog posting schedule.

To accomplish that, Free-for-All Fridays will be reduced to once-a-month posts, which will be published on the first Friday of each month.

So I’ll see you back here the first Friday of February, which happens to be the 1st!

Until then, walk lightly, and be forgiving—of yourself and others.

Enjoying the Most Wonderful Time of the Year

I just love this time of year. The lights, the celebrations, the dressing up in Christmas finery to attend plays and parties. I listen over-and-over to Christmas songs I’ve heard and sung a million times, spend too much, eat too much, and stay up way too late binge-watching Christmas movies, which we now have a healthy collection of in the Owan home.

In spite of the world’s sorry state, we can set aside the sometimes-drudging reality of our lives to live in wonder—the wonder of heaven tearing open the thin veil between Heaven and Earth, God’s spirit indwelling human flesh, the beginning-of-time prophesy being fulfilled, the hope and promise of prophesy yet to come, the real beginning of the march toward Easter sunrise three to four months later.

 

I don’t care if the dead of winter really wasn’t the Lord’s true birth date, or the Catholic Church borrowed the green winter solstice tree from the Druids and Celts and re-invented a celebration in order to appeal to the pagans to join the church. (Happy Winter Solstice Day, by the way.) I don’t even care that celebrating birthdays was a pagan tradition (who knows that kind of stuff now, anyway, except the Jehovah’s Witnesses, some Messianic groups, and trivia buffs?) and Christians didn’t want to celebrate it because of that. (The real practicing pagans believe that evil spirits lurk around during days of major changes, like the day you turn a year older.)

Jesus said, “I make all things new.” And this time of year, I’m going with that.

The genius author Charles Dickens managed to re-focus Christmas into a worldwide celebration, (if you haven’t seen the movie The Man Who Invented Christmas, you’re missing out!) where people set their hearts on others and try to bring joy into someone else’s life (and there are a lot of people who need some extra joy). Dickens shed light on the terrible plight of the poor (which he had experience in) and opened people’s hearts to look around them, to see beyond themselves, to lighten the burden of the downtrodden and disadvantaged.

To make people think about how God views our attitudes and behavior toward our fellow man. (Something that should stay with us all year.)

Of course, we have gotten carried away with the commercialism, but we can turn away from that and enjoy the holiday for what it is—a time to truly turn our hearts toward and honor and celebrate the birth of the man known as

  • Immanuel (God With Us)
  • Wonderful Counselor
  • Almighty God
  • Prince of Peace

 

In the back of my mind, I know January 2 is coming, when the festivities will end, I’ll need to reconcile my checkbook and finances, my monthly income will drop like a rock for half the year in order to satisfy the social security taxes due for 2019, and I’ll be back to living out the day-to-day, which isn’t always very exciting, or forgiving.

But today, and for the next several days and especially Monday night and Tuesday, all day, I’ll be celebrating. It’s a veritable peek into the wedding feast of Heaven I’ll enjoy some day.

 

I hope that’s what you’re celebrating too!

 

Until next time—quiet or boisterous—make it a very Merry Christmas!!

After all, if you are a follower of Jesus, you have MUCH to celebrate!

So Rejoice!!

Blessings,

Andrea

May you prosper in all things and be in health, just as your soul prospers (3 John 2).