Christmas: When Love Came Down

I really miss performing in yearly Christmas pageants and musicals, especially at church. Not only did the dramatist in me love them, they were truly my first introduction to Jesus, (that I can remember), and who He is. An introduction that shaped my vision and view of God and of Christmas itself very early in my life.

But as in so many churches, ours has gone the way of a worship band playing on a “stage,” with nearly every aspect of High Church ornamentation and ritual stripped away. And I’m left with playing old Christmas programs CDs on my stereo system and blaring the beautiful old songs—that taught about God’s love and majesty and His son’s miraculous birth—throughout my house. They bring back warm memories.

 

One of those particular programs is called “When Love Came Down.”

 

But we don’t always think of Christmas that way, do we? When Love came down. When the Creator of the Universe chose to come to this mean earth in the form of a lowly baby, with one purpose in mind: to restore mankind’s relationship to the Father and provide a way for us to spend eternity with Him.

He gives that opportunity to everyone.

Now that’s what I call love!

Perfect, sacrificial, unconditional love.

 

Love goes way beyond how we normally regard it, how we conceptualize it. And amazingly enough, science backs up the power, majesty and mystery of it! Here are just some of the ways love unleashes its power on us (compiled by Guideposts Editorial Intern Alyssa White for Feb/Mar 2018 issue of their Mysterious Ways magazine):

 

  • According to the HeartMath Institute, the heart produces a strong electrical field that can be measured from several feet away.
  • When asked to rate foods, people in loving relationships experienced sweet and bitter foods—even water!—as sweeter, reported the journal Emotion.
  • A UC Davis study of 32 couples found that staring into your beloved’s eyes for three minutes can cause your heartbeats to sync up.
  • Love letters are good for you! An Arizona State [University] study showed writing affectionately about someone you love—either romantically or platonically—can lower your cholesterol.
  • Cuddling and holding hands releases natural painkillers like oxytocin in your brain, according to data from UCLA.
  • A German study found that men who kiss their wives before work live five years longer, earn a higher income, and are less likely to get in a car accident.
  • A study in California noted that gazing at a photograph of a loved one can measurably decrease physical pain.
  • When a mother focuses her attention on her baby, her brain waves synchronize with her baby’s heartbeat, the HeartMath Institute says.

And here’s a fact that drives home just how powerful—and lasting—real love can be:

 

 The heart never forgets. Neuropsychologist Paul Pearsall observed that heart transplant recipients sometimes retain their donor’s memories.

 

That last one is hard to fathom, isn’t it? But it tells you where memories may really be stored.

 

In the heart.

 

When I think about Jesus and His love for us, I find it more amazing.

He came to Earth with the sole purpose of saving us; of giving us a hope and a purpose; of providing the way to eternal life through his death and resurrection.

He did it because He had us in His heart. You, me, everyone.

And He still does. Two thousand years later.

 

He never forgets us.

 

And that’s what Christmas was and still is about.

 

When Love came down.

 

If we spend our week leading up to Christmas meditating on God, Jesus and that mysterious, miraculous love, I have no doubt our heartbeats will sync and our lives will be much sweeter!

 

UNTIL NEXT WEEK, (Christmas Eve), meditate on Jesus and His love, write and send a love letter to someone special, dig out a photo of a loved one and meditate on it, and spend some time cuddling and holding hands with your sweetie!

Ain’t love—and its power—grand!

 

To explore more interesting facts about love, go to Guideposts Love Facts. (Guideposts.org/LoveFacts)

 

Blessings,

Andrea

May you prosper in all things and be in health, just as your soul prospers (3 John 2).

When Life Reschedules Your Week, and You Go With It

Do you ever get to a point where you feel as though you just don’t have anything to say?

I got to that point this week, which is why I didn’t have anything pithy to write for my Friday post. So I didn’t.

Actually, I think I was more pre-occupied with other events going on in my life this week that pre-empted any original thought.

Another week when life got rescheduled—

I’m still struggling to recover from my bone spur surgery. That seems to be coming along, although it’s still a one-day-good, the next day not so much experience. But then the right knee I injured while on Camino has started to give me fits. To the point that I sometimes have difficulty walking on it. Actually, more than sometimes. I think I’m headed back to the doctor sooner rather than later. Even though I have a degree in an area of sports medicine, and I’ve a multitude of injuries, it never ceases to amaze at how injuries of any kind can make you feel so tired, and (sometimes) sick!

Then my younger son decided to come home early for the holidays. Either he really misses us, or he just needed time in familiar, soothing surroundings to, as he put it, “clear his head, be able to think, and get some sleep.” I guess the first semester of law school does that to you!

Anyway, we’re thrilled to have him home; and I needed to stock the house with a lot of food, which included buying his favorites. That meant a grocery store run I hadn’t penciled into the schedule.

We managed to catch a long glimpse of the space station as it circled past us. Can’t remember the last time we were treated to that view. (I wonder what the astronauts are doing for Christmas?)

Then my beloved had a medical procedure yesterday morning that required my attendance. All day.

Suffice to say that life just slowed down for us, we visited a lot with one another, decorated the Christmas tree, enjoyed egg nog in our moose mugs, and made final decisions on Christmas gifts. And we slept in REALLY LATE this morning (Friday)! It was glorious.

 

So I still have nothing profound to say today, but I will be back  next Friday with a final Christmas post for you.

And be sure to join me Monday when we’ll look at the mysterious ways of love!

Until then,

take some time to really enjoy all the season gives you! And don’t feel obligated to take part in everything available to you. Save some energy to really enjoy a few things.

Blessings,

Andrea

FOOD: How it Can Affect Your Mood

It can either improve your mood or send your mood spiraling into the abyss.

What is it?

Food.

And the human gut, and its microbiome, or environment.

A recent Harvard HEALTHbeat issue said,

 

“Researchers agree that a person’s unique microbiome is created within the first 1,000 days of life, but there are things you can do to alter your gut environment throughout your life.”

 

Clearly, the research also shows that what we eat can negatively or positively affect our gut environment and increase or decrease our risk of diseases.

 

The effects of ultra-processed foods and your tummy health—

When you consume processed foods, you’re ingesting a chemistry lab full of substances extracted from food, like sugar and starch along with food constituents like hydrogenated fats, or food actually designed and made in a laboratory. Flavor enhancers and food colorings not sourced from real food like beets are examples of chemistry lab foods.

And those are the ingredients that make your fast food so extra tasty. They’re designed that way so you’ll keep coming back for more. One former chemist that worked for a large food company realized that the load of additives the company wanted put in the cookies and treats actually contained addictive flavor enhancers that made people eat and crave more of the food! He was promptly fired when he made a stink about it. Then he was blackballed from ever working in another food company.

Unfortunately, these enhancers and additives also make the food cheap, which is appealing to the consumer.

 

Some “tasty” examples:

  • canned foods, like soups with monosodium glutamate and other natural flavorings
  • sugar-coated dried fruits (dried fruits are sweet enough without adding any sugar)
  • salted and nitrated meat products, like deli meats
  • sodas
  • sugar or savory packaged snack foods
  • packaged breads, many of which contained dough enhancers
  • buns
  • pastries
  • fried fish or those ultra-tasty chicken nuggets (made with little real chicken)
  • instant noodle soups (can any poor college student yell “Ramen!”)

 

While they may be cheaper to cook and prepare with, those flavor enhancers and unwholesome ingredients do come with a price. And that price is your health, and mood.

 

The food-gut-mood connection—

The first thing you need to know is that 90% of your serotonin receptors are located in the gut. If you need a chemistry refresher, serotonin is a chemical that sends signals to your nerve cells. Low levels of it have been linked to depression, digestion issues, sleep problems, decreased libido, mood, behavior and appetite issues.

That ultra-processed food you’re consuming—especially this time of year with the ubiquitous plates of cookies scattered around the workplace and within easy reach at parties—can throw your gut microbiome way out of whack. It can disrupt the good bacteria that helps you digest your food properly, the immune system in your gut that fights disease and make you more vulnerable to nasty diseases, like:

  • asthma
  • obesity
  • metabolic syndrome
  • diabetes
  • cognitive and mood problems
  • irritable bowel syndrome
  • depression

 

The famous Mediterranean diet and depression—

The Mediterranean diet has been touted for years as the go-to diet to improve health and decrease depression. And now scientists are suggesting that its anti-inflammatory properties can also protect against depression.

My November 28 blog post provided a list of good, anti-inflammatory foods to consume, especially this time of year when stress and fatigue run high and poor food choices usually prevail.

 

And if you’d like a good science-based list, the World Journal of Psychiatry recently published a study, “Antidepressant foods: An evidence-based nutrient profiling system for depression” (September 20, 2018). In it they give a chart listing how both animal meat, fish and vegetable and fruits rank on their antidepressant scale.

 

They also listed food categories and their mean antidepressant food scores (AFS). Their results were, in highest to lowest:

 

Vegetables     48%

Organ meats  25%

Fruits              20%

Seafood          16%

Legumes         8%

Meats              8%

Grains             5%

Nuts/Seeds    5%

Dairy               3%

 

One comment they made in the “Discussion” section of the study is telling:

 

“Interestingly, many foods with a high AFS are not commonly eaten as part of the Western dietary pattern. Specifically, the majority of the United States adult population does not meet daily recommendations for vegetables.”

 

Does that statement surprise anyone? How does your own daily vegetable consumption measure up?

Maybe that’s one of the reasons depression seems to be reaching epidemic proportions, or so it would seem based on the number of anti-depressants prescribed and consumed. With depressive disorders ranking as the leading cause of disability worldwide among people ages 15-44, maybe adding food and diet to the prescription is warranted.

Maybe all of our moods would improve if we could discard the fast and convenience foods for whole, fresh, anti-inflammatory foods.

 

This holiday season, help keep your mood high and your depression low by choosing wisely.

Your gut and brain will thank you!

 

Until next week,

keep the veggies fresh and flowing.

Blessings,

Andrea

May you prosper in all things and be in health, just as your soul prospers (3 John 2).

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Signs and Symptoms of Chronic Depression (aka Dysthymia or Persistent Depressive Disorder)

 

“I’m in shock!”

“She always seemed so happy.”

“I didn’t have any idea.”

“Everyone loved her! She was so talented and had so much to live for.”

“I just never knew.”

 

The horrible reality of High Functioning Depression (HFD)—

Unfortunately, these are some of the first comments you hear following the suicide of a depressed friend or family member.

The survivors didn’t know. They were so surprised, didn’t have any idea.

Unfortunately, this is so often the tragic scenario. We’ve experienced a couple of these tragedies in my own hometown in the last couple of years. Young men who seemed to be blessed with talent, personality and great families. A bright future ahead of them.

Little did their adoring friends know they suffered such internal pain and turmoil.

But why don’t we know and recognize that pain?

Is it because we’re just not really paying attention to others, their actions and words? We’ve lost our empathy for others? We’re afraid to reach out to others to divulge our pain?

Or is it because we just don’t recognize depression in others or happening to us?

Or maybe it’s just really difficult to diagnose, like High Functioning Depression can be.

 

Become familiar with HFD or Chronic Depressive Disorder—

Due to the recent suicides of high-profile people, it seems depression is gaining more attention these days. With 350 million people worldwide and 3.3 million people in the United States suffering with this serious disorder, you’re bound to know someone who is chronically depressed. A family member, co-worker or friend may be suffering with, so it’s important to learn more about the disorder.

 

Know the warning signs of High Functioning Depression—

Because sufferers can look and act normal—and even be successful, high-achieving, and social—recognizing and diagnosing persistent depressive disorder is sometimes challenging.

In this wonderful infographic by my friends at BetterHelp, you’ll discover the warning signs and symptoms of what is known as High Functioning Depression, also known as

 

  • Chronic Depressive Disorder
  • Dysthymia
  • Persistent Depressive Disorder

 

The kind of depression your seemingly happy family members or super-efficient, successful co-workers might be suffering from.

 

People like—

  • the popular student
  • the successful lawyer
  • the smiling co-worker

 

BetterHelp gives you the:
  • Signs
  • Treatment options
  • Risk Factors
  • The two sides of high functioning depression

 

A timely topic—

And what better time of year than the holidays to discuss this issue? The time when so many of us feel overwhelmed with life, exhausted and depressed by the expectations of others and of ourselves, at a time in history when we spend so much time comparing ourselves to others on social media platforms, and become depressed about our own lives in comparison to others’.

Christmas can be a challenging time of year for anyone, but for someone who suffers from depression—any kind of depression—it can be particularly rough. They may be even more fragile than normal at this time of year.

That’s why I’ve chosen now to provide you with this beautiful infograph my friends at BetterHelp have put together. In it they highlight:

 

  • The definition of High Functioning Depression (HFD)
  • The risk factors associated with HFD
  • The 2 sides of HFD
  • The signs of HFD
  • The treatment options

 

Please take the time to read this information-packed graphic BetterHelp has put together for you. If you identify with it, hopefully it’ll prompt you to seek help from counselors, like the licensed experts at BetterHelp, who are trained to help you heal and conquer this and other types of depression.

 

Are you or a family member suffering with high functioning depression?

For all of you going through life pretending to be happy, this may be the wake-up call and permission you need to admit that you’re not, that you want and need help.

Print it off and hang it up in a prominent location at work, maybe the break room, water cooler, or on the notice bulletin board.

Know that you and your family members, friends and co-workers are not alone, and others want to come alongside you to help.

 

Get the help you need—

To learn more about depression, go to BetterHelp.

And if you think you or someone you know is suffering from persistent depression disorder, or any kind of depression, don’t wait any longer to get help.

You can contact BetterHelp to connect with a licensed expert. You’ll learn more about how online therapy with a licensed therapist can help you; and they’ll walk you through the process of finding the best therapist for you, all from the convenience, comfort and privacy of your own home.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Until next week,

bring some hope—and help—to the hurting.

Blessings,

Andrea

Andrea Arthur Owan is an award-winning freelance writer, speaker, teacher and blogger. Her nonfiction and fiction work has appeared in books, secular and religious magazines and newspapers, teaching manuals, devotionals and theater productions. She is also a certified fitness pro and licensed, ordained chaplain.