I have a family member who seems to focus on all the negatives in her life. If she doesn’t have a “big fat problem” to deal with, there doesn’t seem to be anything to focus on, no life purpose. While we occasionally hear her voice words of gratitude, they’re few and far between, and they usually have to do with people being useful to her, rather than “no good to me.”
It’s exhausting emotionally, spiritually and physically, so our time spent with her is limited. She doesn’t see herself as a negative person, but that’s how the rest of the family defines her. Void of a lot of gratitude.
What’s behind being grateful?
Just why do some people seem more naturally grateful than others? Can it be learned through practice? Is there a genetic component to it? What are the best ways to encourage, practice, and develop it? Is it an emotion? Virtue? Behavior?
These are some of the many questions we’ll be exploring together on Meditation Mondays as we approach Thanksgiving here in the United States. We’ll be preparing our hearts for that day, and carrying thankfulness into 2019 with us. And, hopefully, throughout the remainder of our lives.
So let’s get started today with some basics.
Gratitude as a research topic—
Scientists are studying gratefulness, and they’re learning some fascinating things about it. But before they started gratefulness research—a relatively new area in psychology and neuroscience—they had to develop some working definitions. Robert Emmons—considered by some as the world’s leading scientific expert on gratitude—and Michael McCullough whittled gratitude down to 2 definitions, so it could be scientifically studied and quantified. Those definitions are:
- “Recognizing one has obtained a positive outcome (from something), and;
- Recognizing that there is an external source for the positive outcome.”
They understand that people can possess gratitude for something outside of themselves, something, or someone, like God, fate, nature, etc., as the benefactors.
Some scientists then go on to break gratitude down into 3 categories:
- An “affective trait”—are you innately more prone to be grateful as part of your personality?
- A mood—Does your overall gratitude level alter throughout the day?
- An emotion—Where you experience a temporary spike in gratitude as a result of something positive or beneficial being given to you.
Gratitude and brain science—
Scientists have uncovered areas our brains that express or experience gratitude. And some studies claim to have located possible gratitude genes.
Are there biological roots of gratitude? Why do some people seem naturally inclined to experience and express it? Are their ways you can foster “feelings and expressions of gratitude?”
Some researchers look at gratitude on an evolution spectrum: gratitude and helping one another out strengthens community bonds.
“Feeling” gratitude—
I think most people would say they “feel happy” when they experience gratitude, as though happiness and gratitude go hand-in-glove with one another. But evidently we experience gratitude in different ways and depending upon what kind of personality we have, what our cognitive function or awareness is, and what gender we are. Yes, females and males differ on the gratitude spectrum!
Other ingredients need to be considered too. Like:
- Where were you born and where did you grow up; and who were your parents?
- Social and cultural mores you grew up or live in.
- The religion you learned or follow.
- The kind of parenting styles you exposed to.
Benefits—
Scientists have uncovered a multitude of benefits for the grateful.
- Grateful people demonstrate greater happiness and life satisfaction.
- Grateful people experience less materialism.
- Grateful people enjoy both physical and psychological benefits.
- Grateful people exhibit a greater resiliency to traumatic events.
- Gratefulness may promote the development of other traits we consider virtues, like: patience, humility and wisdom. (Although I would argue that no matter how grateful you are, you cannot enjoy real wisdom without first acknowledging God. More on that in a later post.)
And gratitude appears to inspire people to generosity, kindness and helpfulness. It shores up relationships and may improve work environments by promoting positive attitudes and behavior.
In the following weeks, we’ll dig deeper into all of these and discover how to be grateful people, or more grateful than we already are. To pass it on and encourage and promote the behavior in others.
Until then, I’d encourage you to watch the following 4-minute YouTube video in which University of California—Davis professor, Robert Emmons, reveals 4 encouraging benefits in his presentation: “What Good is Gratitude?”
For more information on gratitude, go to the University of California—Berkeley’s: Greater Good: The Science of a Meaningful Life. They have a wonderful online magazine called Great Good Magazine: Science-Based Insights for a Meaningful Life.
Blessings,
Andrea
May you prosper in all things and be in health, just as your soul prospers (3 John 2).